A Christmas For Those Who Grieve
Christmas Holiday Season 2020. A Holiday Season never to be forgotten for generations.
This one will be unlike any others in our memories. Everyone is in the same boat of restrictions & regulations, choosing between compliance and defiance but with the same desire to be with the ones we love most. And a deep longing for the ones we cannot be with or can only be with virtually.
It’s not the same.
Christmas without hugs is not the same.
These will be Happy Holidays for some.
Get Through The Holidays for others.
For those of us who have lost a precious gift, we are not in a festive mood. We will be happy just getting through the day without a total breakdown.
Rather than celebrating in joy, we seek peace and a soothing balm for our hurting heart. We reflect, we regret, we smile, we cry, we remember, we try to forget.
Grief is where polar opposite emotions meet. In the beginning, these opposites meet and crash into each other. With time, these opposites meet and swirl around each other, each having their own moment to be felt, some absorbed and some let go.
In a way, we are all grieving to a certain extent. Some are grieving great loss, some are grieving the loss of tradition. Some are planning a Christmas in July and some planning to celebrate twice as big for the 2021 Holidays.
There is one thing for sure: some of the things we took for granted will be much more appreciated. We will reprioritize, review, revisit. It will take a while to transition out of this pandemic and into the new normal whatever that might look like. Hopefully we take with us the best of who we are and leave behind a lot of who we never wanted to be in the first place.
As I hold my sweet Kait tightly close to me today and spend the day with my hero, Ron, I hope you hold your precious ones tightly close either in person, virtually or in spirit. They are the best Christmas gift of all.
Have a Happy, Healthy & Safe New Year 2021. May it more than make up for 2020.
